We Hold These Truths…

Young Teenage Girl Standing And Looking On Empty Picture Frame

Truth: all humans are created equal. We can sometimes distinguish ourselves by our actions in life, but to believe that one person is inherently better than another because of something they were granted unearned at birth–whether it be skin color, religion, sex, or bank balance–is to live in a juvenile world of fairy princesses. Such a world is not fair to our daughters, or our sons.

When I was growing up, sexism was acceptable and assumed. It was displayed out in the open without shame, because obviously women were not equal to men. We weren’t strong enough to be bosses, couldn’t do math, and we made decisions based on emotion rather than fact. Daughters were expected to be mothers, teachers, or nurses.

Young women today tell me that no one is sexist anymore, but it has not been extinguished so thoroughly. It simmers beneath the surface, creeping unnoticed through our subconscious. This election brought it bubbling to the surface.

A woman I know took me to task years ago for saying how ridiculous I thought it was to have a president who couldn’t pronounce the word “nuclear.” She told me that I needed to have more respect for the office that he held, even if I hadn’t voted for him. That woman, this week, said on the internet that Hillary Clinton was a “rat-faced whore.”

How is it possible to contain those two thoughts in the same brain and not notice the imbalance? Deeply held, unconsidered prejudice.

Amy Richards said, “the last time most of us had a powerful woman in our lives, we were children and she was our mother.” We have no picture in our heads of what a powerful woman should look like. We expect the impossible of every woman–she must be pretty, personable, useful, bright, successful–so we apply that in the extreme to a woman who is breaking down walls. Then we stir in a little jealousy because who does she think she is to accomplish so much more than we did? As Ms. Richards added, “we punish her for excellence and success.”

The State Department and the Senate Intelligence Committee made mistakes in Benghazi, and four people died. Investigation into the incident found many at fault; the report mentioned Clinton one time. She did, however, assume responsibility, because she was  Secretary of State.

97 people died in  20 embassy attacks when George Bush was president. Only one was ever investigated at all.

The recent email scandal occurred because Clinton used her private account for official business, rather than a State Department account. This was common practice at the time, and indeed both Colin Powell and Condoleezza Rice did the same, as did the head of the CIA. No-one has called Colin Powell a criminal and demanded that he be jailed.

The anger toward this one woman is out of proportion, an extreme overreaction caused by beliefs instilled in our brains when we were still too young to reason.

I understand that people do not want to vote for someone just because she is female. We want our children to grow up in a world free of bigotry, not just reverse its direction. But I hope that they do not refuse to vote for her out of unconscious sexism. We are not obligated to vote for a woman simply because she is a woman; we are obligated to not blindly swallow the lies people spew out of a rancid sea of prejudice, because we have daughters.

To fairly evaluate a female presidential candidate we need to see past the overlay with which prejudice has painted them; we need to allow a strong woman to be a positive thing; and we need to look at actual facts.

Dig in. Think. Then Vote.

DomesticatedMomster
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10 thoughts on “We Hold These Truths…

    • Wow, thanks so much!
      My mama said, “your brains, money, and politics should be kept in your pocket until specifically asked for.”
      I am not so good at following that advise.
      Glad you liked it.

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  1. Hi Kathleen,
    You called your posts “boring” on my site, so I came to check them out.
    I beg to differ with you, but this article is amazing. It should be published in the Huffington Post, and I am seriously not exaggerating.
    I am so busy, I usually skim posts, but inhaled every syllable. I’d like to respond, but I’m still ingesting.
    1. You and I look same-age. I also grew up in an age where there was overt sexism and racism.
    2. I have three daughters but I don’t know that I see the relevancy. If we vote for Hillary it’s because she’s best, not because we have daughters.
    3. I agree with you that EVERYTHING she does is blown out of proportion. I also share your concern that people won’t vote for her due to an ingrained sexism. She (by her own admission) was careless about Emails when Powell and Rice (Republicans) did the same thing.Trump is saying she paid for hostages? POTUS says it was a previously agreed up deal under his authority.
    4. I normally make it a policy not to air my politics. I don’t want to risk offending any Republicans that read my writing. I just broke my own rule. Your post was THAT good.
    Janice

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  2. I’m sorry but I just read Janice’s comment, and you think your posts are boring??? I think they are amazing! Don’t ever feel like that!

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  6. I never talk about politics or religion. Mainly because I know very little about politics except that there’s always so many expectations and not much follow through and as for religion …well I am just not religious…I don’t believe in it. I just believe in being a good person, being kind, and helping out someone who needs it from time to time regardless of the circumstances. Thanks for linking up with #momsterslink and hope to see you tomorrow!

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    • I meant it to be more about unconscious sexism than politics, but I do tend to talk about forbidden subjects – they are so much more interesting! Hopefully by the time the next generation is grown sexism will be so far gone that it would be boring to bring up.

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